I was enjoying Tess's blog post and I asked if I could run it here!  Even if only a couple of these resonate with you, it's worth it!!  Enjoy!  

150 Bold Tips about Life, People & Wisdom
by Tess Marshall - at The Bold Life

1. Offer others your wisdom
2. Don't give unasked for advice.
3. Accept that everyone isn't on your path.
4. Pay for your dates dinner.
5. Plant a tree.
6. Learn to love yourself.
7. Stop whining. Change what you complain about. Let the rest go.
8. Get involved in something you believe in.
9. Believe in yourself.
10. Enjoy your journey.
11. Learn how to deal with anger, yours, and others.
12. Use music to change your mood.
13. Compliment others often. Never leave kind words unsaid.
14. Don't save your good stuff for later.
15. Affection isn't earned, it's freely given.
16. Live with less of everything…except love.
17. Visit Alaska.
18. Have a “Yes” so big it allows you to say “No.”
19. Learn how to say, “No, that’s not going to work for me.” Don’t offer an excuse.
20. Stop buying expensive coffee.
21. Use the money saved for a trip at the end of the year.
22. Buy a good pair of New Balance athletic shoes and walk or run consistently.
23. Learn how to receive. Just say, “Thank you!”
24. Learn to enjoy reading.
25. Admit when you’re wrong.
26. Let others have the last word.
27. Let go of quilt. It's wasted energy.
28. Touch the people you love.
29. Paint something.
30. Respect yourself. Don't tolerate abuse.
31. Learn to apologize.
32. Learn to dislike fast food.
33. Eat mindfully.
34. Change the oil in your car regularly.
35. Never visit someone empty handed.
36. Be who you are.
37. Understand and accept your weaknesses and shortcomings. Everyone has them.
38. Always hold the door open for the person behind you.
39. Call your mother today. Better yet, send her chocolates.
40. Spend time listening to a child’s laugh.
41. Find out what brings you joy. Then do it.
42. Learn about fine art and classical music.
43. Create your own health program.
44. Take responsibility for your own happiness.
45. Listen to your gut. It's never wrong. Never.
46. Keep your surroundings neat and clean.
47. Practice compassion and loving kindness.
48. Learn about a different culture.
49. Celebrate your strengths and successes.
50. Allow yourself pleasure.
51. Keep a gratitude journal.
52. Make the first move. Don't keep score of who did what last.
53. Learn how to fix things. Over time it will save you a fortune.
54. Tap into your own genius.
55. Decide fear won't stop you.
56. Learn to deal with rejection. Everyone won't give you what you want.
57. Create a vision for your future.
58. Refuse to participate in uncomfortable situations.
59. Create romance in your relationship.
60. Smile more.
61. Laugh frequently. It's a good thing.
62. Listen to someone you disagree with. Remain neutral.
63. Change a habit. Then change another.
64. Get outside and smell the day.
65. Always leave a big tip. Teach that the world is a generous place.
66. Stop blaming others for your misery.
67. Focus on one task at a time.
68. Spend one day working in the fields with migrant workers. Then ask yourself if they are taking our jobs.
69. Send thank you cards the old fashioned way.
70. Wear sunscreen.
71. Volunteer in a children’s hospital ward.
72. Go the extra mile.
73. Walk your date to the door.
74. Be courageous. Break up with someone face to face.
75. Learn what projection and how to accept it.
76. Don’t take things personally.
77. What people do is about them. How you respond is about you.
78. Bring flowers to someone. Buy a single stem for yourself.
79. Write poetry. It soothes your soul.
80. Count your blessings. When is the last time you were grateful for your refrigerator?
81. Be inspired by slam poetry. What a skill.
82. Be impeccably groomed. Dress up on low energy days.
83. Enjoy chocolate.
84. Learn to change your emotional state.
85. Forgive your parents.
86. Write down what you promise others.
87. Do the work.
88. Practice gratitude.
89. Agree to disagree.
90. Be willing to compromise.
91. Love toxic people from a distance.
92. Remain true to your dreams and visions.
93. Eliminate all forms of negative media from you life.
94. Live the life you’ve imagined.
95. Be true to yourself.
96. Embrace the present.
97. Just begin.
98. Give thanks in advance.
99. Use your imagination.
100. Collaborate with others.
101. Learn to admit, “I don’t know.”
102. Find something to believe in.
103. Get the help you need.
104. Learn how to cook.
105. Dare to be your best.
106. Take risks. Do what scares you.
107. See beauty in world.
108. Celebrate what’s right with the world.
109. Do something brilliant every day.
110. Encourage others.
111. Make a difference.
112. Continue to learn something new.
113. Mentor someone.
114. Learn to be frugal.
115. Spend time with children and the elderly.
116. Be honest about your taxes.
117. Wake up and go to sleep at the same time every day.
118. Don’t bet against yourself. Believe in yourself.
119. Don’t clutter your mind or environment.
120. Give anonymously.
121. Don’t believe your own thoughts.
122. Drop your story.
123. Jump for joy.
124. Take naps.
125. Expect the best.
126. End your relationship before you sleep with someone else.
127. Learn how to meditate.
128. Don’t text and drive.
129. Be happy for the success of others.
130. Don’t drink and drive.
131. Don’t drink, text, and drive.
132. Be inspired. Read and listen to good stuff.
133. Remember this too shall pass, it always has and always will.
134. Learn how to express yourself intelligently.
135. Be a mindful driver.
136. Thank a teacher.
137. Become a mentor.
138. Appreciate nature.
139. Be the love you want to find.
140. Notice small things; a blade of grass, a snowflake, tree bark.
141. Surround yourself with happy people.
142. Don't think about your problems. Solve them.
143. Give up control and manipulation.
144. Positively anticipate the future.
145. Learn how to grow things.
146. Where you find love lacking, offer love.
147. Spend less time at work and more time at play.
148. Learn self-restraint.
149. Learn how to relax.
150. Be bold!

What Age Do You Want To Be?

For many reading this...if you honestly ask yourself how you feel in your body, the way it is right now...you tend to feel your age.  And it doesn't matter how old you are.  Day to day, week to week an ongoing theme plays out where we will find an area to be unhappy with - weight, muscle tone, endurance, skin or hair issues, not to mention health issues we'd like to wave 'bye-bye' to. Maybe a job we detest, relationship that's blah or bank account balance that could be higher.   Put one or more of these 'undesirables' all together and suddenly we feel a certain age.  And as we focus and feel, so we become.

Yikes...put on the brakes!   It's high time to reinvent ourselves!!

Now what does THAT mean?  Well...in a nutshell - reinventing yourself means you have to change your approach constantly to keep making room for improvement!  For me it can mean being hopeful, or learning something new - whether a new health remedy, new recipe, trying a new author or attempting to find new talent I never thought was inside of me!  How many of us have a mental list of things we always wondered about or wanted to try...either we were interested or wondered if we'd be any good at it!  But we talk ourselves out of it!  Reinvention keeps life fresh and gives you a chance to think critically about what parts of your life are working and what parts can be improved.  There's always room for improvement...for isn't that the progression of life?  Or shouldn't it be?  Seeking better for ourselves and those we care about.  Expanding who we are has changed the world we live in. Where would we be without re-invention and expansion??   Electricity, airplanes, health advances, the internet, computers, new business's, The Genie Bra  ....HA...had to throw that last one in to see if you were paying attention.  But you get my point.

I learn from those around me what kind of a difference it really does make.  You do too.  People that show you every day how they either, are or aren't reinventing themselves.  Some stay stuck and focused on the unwanted..and it shows.  Their demeanor, their health issues, their finances, relationships etc.  Then there are those who are looking at what is...and deciding...."hmm...there's got to be something I can focus on better than this!!

To tie this all in from my original title...How old do you want to feel?  I want to feel good, energetic, flexible, eager...not having to think twice about whether or not I can actually do or try something because of my 'age' and how well I''m aging, but to make that decision solely on whether I want to do it or not.  I've felt like that pretty much my entire life - recently I've gotten bogged down with a couple areas that I am not 'wanting' and I am working on my refocusing as every once in a while I start thinking about my age...and frankly I rarely do that when my focus is on what I want.  So this summer is a jump start for me.

You may have to practice this  'Reinventing' of yourself.  How?  Change your approach on a certain subject, tweak you goal, ask someone for help, give in to that idea you've always wanted to try but haven't, and always one that works for me....do something nice for yourself first...THEN do something nice for someone else.  This always clears my mind, opens doors, gives me ideas, lightens my mood and helps me to rethink something or feel better about me.  When this happens, suddenly we walk taller, smile or laugh more, feel more optimistic, and choose differently. 

By doing this consistently, you will always go about your day and life NOT thinking about your age, what you can't do,INSTEAD feeling like life has just begun and what can I do next...Then it doesn't matter what your age is, cause it just keeps propelling us forward and FEELING good in the process.

What do you want? Do you know? And when you fine tune it a bit in your head or on paper ...Do you ever just ask for some simple clarity? I mean we all talk to ourselves...whether aloud or in our heads. But we all do it. I do it both ways! But lots of times I ask things without really being mindful of actually expecting an answer. I'm getting better at it. I tend to do better when it is something important and I am just getting to the end of my rope with knowing what to do.

Pretty much all of us were taught in order to get, be, or have something we have to DO something. Somewhat accurate. What I have learned over the last 7 yrs or more is that myself and lots of us tend to run around like a hamster on one of those wheels..."gotta be doing something, gotta be doing something" cause if I'm not doing 'something"- what I want will not be able to show up! Not correct. There's doing something and there's 'doing' something...(love that analogy). When you are asking questions...and by asking I mean asking your inner guidance or asking God, the 'Big Guy' upstairs, the Universe, Spirit...(whatever works for you) what the heck would be something I could do to help myself get to where I want to be. And then let go of it. Trust comes in here. And that is usually where most of us waver. We 'know' we should trust...we know pretty much that things can and do happen for us - but because we don't know how, or when exactly, we start doubting - thus starting the 'gotta be doing somethings' all over again.

What I have noticed for me...is lots of times I get these ideas or inspirations of something that feels like 'fun' or kind of exciting because of the possibilities or I may read something or talk to someone who is doing something similar. (I love that!). And lots of times (hate to admit) I sit there and analyze it to death. My recent clarity on the subject is that I tend to worry about failing or looking stupid, or what would people think. etc etc. I've decided to do less of THAT and instead more of what feels good - that means letting mself get excited about something, letting myself TRY some of my inspired ideas and knowing that by my getting out of the way more (playing more when I just get so frustrated or worried) because that just keeps it all at arms length!

I'm 40 something years old. And you know...I'm really getting tired of being less than I believe I could be. I'm very appreciative of where I am..and how far I've come. And yet I know there's more out there and darn it..I want some too. No more giving a RATS ASS what may or may not go right...time to just enjoy the 'getting there' part of it all too!